Statistics show that the infidelity rate in Australia and some other developed countries has increased in the past 50 years or so. This may be due to the fact that more and more women are entering the workforce, which many believe is an opportunity for them to cheat.
And now that we’re in the age of the Internet, it’s easy for anyone to meet someone online, with the help of social media and dating apps. These tools have made cheating easier for everybody. In fact, studies show that sexual and emotional affairs are present in almost 70% of all marriages. This is pretty upsetting.
Our job as private investigators is to help individuals who suspect their spouses of cheating. We’ve handled these cases several times before and are very familiar with this.
Here, we’re going to share with you some surprising facts about cheating partners:
- Cheaters are narcissistic and some are even sociopathic
Cheaters have the tendency to show sociopathic traits and have a tendency to display a general lack of empathy.
Some of the most common behaviours that we have observed in them are callousness, pathological lying, and manipulation. One of the subjects of our investigations even took advantage of six women and these were the only ones we knew about!
- Some religions accept infidelity as basis for divorce
In case you’re not aware, different religions actually have different rules on granting divorce. For Maronite Catholics and Coptic Christians, evidence of infidelity is enough to grant the divorce.
This is why if they suspect their partners of cheating, they immediately hire private investigators to gather evidence that they can use as grounds for divorce. Once the evidence is presented to their high-ranking priests, they will review and eventually grant the divorce.
- Infidelity doesn’t affect divorce according to the law
This might come as a surprise but infidelity is not ground for divorce in Australia. Just because your partner has been unfaithful doesn’t mean you can already divorce him or her.
Furthermore, your partner’s infidelity will not play a part in the splitting of your assets.
- Some couples don’t separate despite obvious cheating evidence
Interesting enough, it’s common for partners to still go on with the relationship even when there’s already a clear evidence of infidelity.
Some couples are willing to ignore what their partners did and will continue with their relationship due to various reasons, one of these being financial. Also, those with children try to forgive and forget for the sake of their kids.
But in our many years of experience as private investigators, we can say that every individual has different thresholds when it comes to tolerating their partner’s infidelity and it’s merely up to the parties involved to decide on how to handle the issue. Our role is to simply assist people in making informed decisions.
- Private investigators can sometimes catch the cheating partner in the act!
As private investigators, our main task is to gather enough evidence that will prove the cheating partner’s wrongdoing. We are so good at what we do that we have been able to catch them on the act several times!
These include kissing, holding hands, and even being intimate with each other. In one occasion, our investigator was lucky enough to be at the right place and at the right time and was able to gather actual footage of the act!
- Cheaters slip up often
In our experience, we have found out that cheaters are not actually as smart as they think they are. They tend to develop a pattern of behaviour that makes their partners suspect them.
And once the seed of doubt is planted, these suspicious partners will become more wary of them and will be very watchful of their action, which causes them to get caught.
- Cheaters usually have a conservative Christian background
Ashley Madison, a controversial dating site that’s geared towards married people who are interested in having an affair, conducted a survey that revealed more than 70% of the dating site’s users are Christians.
We’re not really surprised by this because in our job as private investigators, most of those we investigated for infidelity were Christians. This is probably due to the fact that the religion encourages people to marry at a younger age and they realise at a later time that they weren’t yet ready for commitment.
- Putting matters into your own hands is never a good idea
We’re not promoting our services so that we can earn good money. But we are promoting it since we know it’s what people should do.
If you’re not trained for this job and you attempt to do it yourself, you might just make things worse for you and your relationship. You cannot just hack into your partner’s device to look for evidence because that is illegal. Doing this might just turn the tables.
Your partner will use it against you. Sure, it’s possible for anyone to do surveillance but it can be time-consuming and is not practical if you have your own job to attend to.
- There’s a good chance that the cheating party is lying about other things too
Another thing we have learned about cheaters is that lying becomes a pattern of their behaviour. So, if your partner is cheating, he or she is more likely to be good at lying too.
Over the years, we’ve come across several individuals who have not only cheated, but also lied about their financial matters, addictions, career, etc.
- Some won’t admit they are unfaithful even after decades of cheating
People who cheat will never admit their wrongdoing even if you catch them or have pieces of evidence to prove their infidelity.
Even if they have been unfaithful to you for decades, they will never admit their mistakes. And if the cheated party will continue to ignore the behaviour or remains in denial to their partner’s wrongdoing, this behaviour will go on until forever.
We have cases where they have been suspecting their partners to be cheating on them for decades, but it’s only now that they decided to have him or her investigated.